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Thursday, September 29, 2011

Indian Women and Sex


Generally marketers around the world (with some exceptions in the scandinavian countries, maybe) use sex as a tool to attract the male population. This is well known even to the non-marketing professional, and it works: sex sells.

Earlier today, I saw a TV advertisement for Parachute Moisturising cream that actually sold sex to women. Here's the link for it:


What surprises me, is ofcourse that this ad was directed towards women. But, it shouldnt be all that surprising: India is a country that marketers have had the hardest time understanding, and if Indian women do not mind being sold sex towards, then that solves a big marketing problem for the next few years.

On the other hand, It's a sign of changing India. It's a sign of a more open India.

I still don't understand it completely, but it's worth a try if that's what Parachute was going for.

Ps. if you were expecting something completely different due to the title, you're better off googling ;)

Monday, September 26, 2011

Self Respect #loveyourself

The importance of self respect is not evident in the way the world sees you, but in the way you see yourself. There is no shortage of losers in this world - but many of them are loved. and very dearly too. Sorry, Kardashians.

But if they hated themselves, made it absolutely clear and were sad about it all the time - guess what? Nobody would care about them either. That's what the prerequisite to living is: love who you are. If you hate yourself, pretend to love yourself. Paradoxical, yes, but so is our world.

Sunday, September 25, 2011

Jail for Failed Suicide Attempts

Yes, the title is quite controversial: Times of India brought to our notice a few days ago that a failed attempt at suicide is a crime under current legislation (a successful attempt has its own rewards, perhaps). But it begs us to ask this question: People who are suicidal are tired of their lives and just want a way out - Without making a judgement on their bravery (or lack thereof), you have to ask: If you are tired of your life and try to kill yourself and fail, you land up in jail.

How does that make sense? It'll make people even more depressed and want to kill themselves even more unless a revelation changes their mind in jail completely.

Is that even a viable plan? If you try to kill yourself we'll put you in jail. If you don't, you're stuck. What about democracy? What about the freedom to choose? What we need is suicide helplines and self-help groups. Not stupid laws that are counter-intuitive.

India plans to make that law obsolete soon, but why was something like that put into place? I'm not sure if  either of the options - make suicide a crime or create self help groups - will help undo the damage in a person's life, but the latter is far more of a better option.

Even so, if somebody wants to kill themselves, I think they have all the right to. Of course things always get better, but that's just one of many perceptions.

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Lessons in Perseverance

If you've ever taken a cab or driven to town from the suburbs or even Worli Sea Face, you know that the Haji Ali stretch is mind-numbing in peak hours. The tenish kilometer stretch can take anywhere between five minutes and one hour to drive by. In the same situation today, I saw a young man selling pirated books packed in polythene covers and made to look as legitimate as possible.

Now, during the 45 minutes or so I spent on that stretch, there was a taxi cab in front of me, in which a woman showed an interest in buying one of those books. For this young man, he had struck gold.

I say this for two reasons. First, most of us don't read. and second, even if the few of us that do, we don't buy a book while sitting in a 45 minute ten kilometer stretch. We're painstakingly furious at the red lights, other drivers and even ourselves sometimes, let along buying a book to read.

He had some ten books in his hand, and he showed her one by one patiently. She didn't like any of them. As we moved further along in the traffic, he moved with the car. He went away, and came back with more books in a matter of two minutes. These books he kept on the divider and when he came back, he did the same thing: showed her more books one by one. The process repeated until she was interested in one of the books.

This young man may be in his early twenties, and made a hundred bucks after twenty minutes of showing his collection and bargaining. He then goes to the next car where a woman sits, who looks like she might read a book.

He shows not only an understanding of his "market" (primarily women, perhaps men rarely buy from him) but also the perseverance and determination that he's not letting a sale go to waste. Inspiring.

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Emotional Intelligence and India

Im beginning to think that for an emotional country, we lack emotional intelligence. This morning, for example, I read in the paper that an IIM-Bangalore girl decided to kill herself because her boyfriend dumped her. Over facebook. She was 22, and he was an idiot. She probably was too, in some matters. At 22 and IIM, would mean only one thing: Her life was just beginning. 


This is not an isolated incident. Some 16 year old Mulund boy decided to kill his grandmother so he could buy a bike.

Where is our emotional intelligence? Where is the can-deal-with this attitude that we are known for? Is a bike or a relationship more important than a life? These are extreme cases ofcourse, but there are people who go into depression because of the same reasons - lack of money or a broken heart.

I say we nail these things on their head, and find better relationships. We work harder and have an even more positive attitude about it. We are all lovable - by someone, somewhere - and that alone should be enough to make us emotionally intelligent.

Taking lives is not the answer, making sure our lives become even better after such incidents is.

Friday, September 16, 2011

In an open letter to a Delhi boy

I think we all meet a lot of people who we can classify as autistic three year olds, even though they look like and are expected to act like adults. Recently, one of my friends forwarded me a link to a blog by a Shahana who bashed one of such people.

I believe in forgetting these things and feel that it's better to focus our energies elsewhere, but her letter really changed my mind, even if just this once. It has been extensively covered so much and most of you have probably already read it, but if you have not, please do.

http://bit.ly/qMkupc

Being a boy, I think it's worth a read on general ettiquette. For girls, the incentive is obvious!

After a long time,
Trb
@trbetala