In learning more about others we tend to try to understand them, predict their behaviors, likes, dislikes. This inevitably leads to making a judgement about who they are, sometimes to the detriment of that relationship. Most often we know only part of the story, half truths about what the other person is going through.
This is the only path that a true human relationship between any two people can take - better understanding would equal better friendship until it causes some disagreement and dont-step-on-my-toe moments. Some will get through that and others wont. To be a companion is not to judge, not to seek to understand, but to simply just be there. Not to generalize about what one should and shouldnt do.
Is the flipside of this to not find things to love about a person and not get close to them at all? Probably not. But the relationship only truly works so as long as there is no stepping on anothers toes, be it love, friendship or family. But at some point one person always believes they know whats right for another. And what then?
The truth is that this is each persons world and it is their own struggle. The rest of the world is here only to guide them when they needs - to that person, on a very fundamental and non emotional way, everybody else is the rest of the world.
Human struggles, as cliche as this may be, are much like if anyone helps a butterfly when it is in a cocoon, it struggles to survive. Everyone needs to go through the struggles they do and come out stronger.
As for others we need to be there for them; for our benefit its best to not to seek to understand, and if we do, we may keep it best to ourselves.
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