Judging by the looks of it

I have decided to try to not judge anybody anymore. I'm going to achieve this through a process of not caring – not in a way that "I don't care about that person" – but in that I won't let "it" bother me. If the person makes me happy and content, I shall be friendly, care about them (as opposed to caring about the choices they make or the things they do) and just enjoy. If someone makes me unhappy, I will just not be bothered by it at all.That is the only way to be truly happy. It is hard though, and there are inherent difficulties in not "caring": A friend may perhaps need an intervention, or it may not be just simple to let go and move on. But again it's not impossible, and in the long run, it is just so much easier. It would truly be amazing if we just minded our own business and let the negative stuff behind (but oh wait, how else can one find entertainment in their lives? Here's a hint: TV, movies, books, music)

Judging other people only makes our lives unhappier. Doing so makes us hate other people – and the feeling of hate – is rather strongly negative. It makes us less happy because of its inherent negativity. The truth is, if we were to put ourselves in their shoes, our new self would be "right" and we are all aware of this, and yet never put it into action.Earlier today, I saw somebody wear shiny black pants. Like, I could see my reflection in them. If you're a girl you could do your makeup on those things; that shiny. I immediately judged him to have poor taste – I mean, come on? But that's what leads me to think about this whole judging thing. It wasn't bothering me in anyway other than that they were so different. So why did I hate?

In thinking about why we do judge, the answer was pretty obvious: We are so set in our own ways that we perceive everything to be a certain way – and any deviation, even in the slightest – would be judged as abnormal (Of course we don't like change and any deviation is change, right?). The truth is, there are countless ways one thing can be done rightly, so being set in one way as the "right way" is just an absurd belief.Embracing the fact that not everything we do is perfect – and there are countless other better ways things can be done – gives us not only the flexibility, but also the confidence to try new things and to make the things we do now better.

This will only make our lives better and help us find new ways and innovative ways to do things. What's more – this change in our "routine" will only make us more positive.

Isn't the effect of ONE positive thought truly infectious?
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